In my early years of serving as a small groups pastor I often would talk to a person interested in joining a small group, refer him to the small group facilitator, then would find out that no one showed up for the group. Thus, I developed these ten tips because several of our groups had ten people sign up to be part of a group, then when the group was ready to start only two people showed up the first night.
PRAY FOR THE PERSON
I have never met a person that has refused allowing me to pray for him. As you meet a new person and work to develop a connection with him, offer to pray for him.
Ask If There Is Anything that You Can Pray for Him About
Your first point of contact with a person is probably going to be by phone or in person. (You always want to connect in a personal way such as a phone call or in person; not just via text message, email, or Facebook message.) When you talk to the person, ask if there is anything you can pray for him about. But, be sure that you have set aside a little time for this phone call with the person.
Offering to pray for someone might mean that he wants to talk with you about it, and it could take a while. Be sure that you have at least ten minutes set aside to have this conversation. If you feel comfortable, pray for the person on the phone together. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, then it is okay to tell him that you will be praying for him during your personal quiet time each week.
Then, before you end the call, ask if you have his permission to share those prayer requests with your small group. What a comforting assurance it gives someone visiting a small group to know that the group has been praying for him and his prayer requests before he even visits the group!