Today’s post is part of a series about coaching. I wrote these articles while interning with Church Assistance Ministry and have decided to share them with you because coaching is one of the many elements of leadership.
THE 5 ELEMENTS OF COACHING (part 2 of 2)
One of the great benefits of having a large age (at least for me) difference between Steve and I is that I mature greatly while spending time with him. Who we spend time with today determines who we will become tomorrow. That has become very evident to me after spending a significant amount of time with Steve.
As a result of spending time being coached by a man with 40 years of ministry experience, I now look at the world different. Steve is able to tell me about how the church ran in the sixties and seventies, which brings perspective to me and my life.
Becoming more mature through coaching also allows me to move faster and quicker through life. One example is that he has taught me to have a list of core values that help guide my life. These core values clarify who I am as a man, and allow me to make important decisions with ease and confidence knowing that I am making a decision based on a view of who I am and who I want to be.
A benefit of meeting with Steve one-to-one has been that he is able to see me at my worst as a leader. Steve knew about my struggles as a young leader. He knew about volunteers that stopped volunteering with me because of my lack of good leadership. He has been me react emotionally to people and treat them unkindly when I should have been more professional and patient. And when I ay he knew it, he read actual emails that were being sent between unhappy volunteers and myself.
Leaders need someone who they can be totally open and honest with to share our hearts and our feelings with. This is where good coaching takes place. It goes deep into you as a leader and examines you and improves who you are at your core by getting rid of the bad that’s in there, and draws out the good that is in there.
A good coach is someone who allows us to peel back that outer protective covering so that he can see what’s in there. Once the coach sees what is in there, he then is able to coach us based on the weaknesses we have and build on our strengths.
A young leader desperately needs a coach who can offer this to him. There were many times where I needed Steve to be an objective person who I could talk to about issues that were inappropriate to talk with my volunteers at A Day of Hope.
Through all this transparency and peeling back the outer layering of a leader, is that a coach will still be right there to encourage and coach the young leader. No mater what I have been through and told Steve about, he has always affirmed his belief in me and told me that he knows I will be able to pull off what I needed to do.
Question: What do you believe the elements of coaching are?