The boldest leadership decision you can make is declaring family as your #1 priority
Not only is this the boldest decision you will have to make, it's also the most difficult to live out and maintain.
There always seems to be "one more" thing you can do, opportunity you
can pursue, board you can serve on, volunteer need to fulfill, (you
fill in the blank here). When leaders declare their family as the #1
priority in their life it's bold because they tell the people they work
with and lead, "You are not #1 on my radar. There is something out
there that is more important than you, and I will make sure that area is
taken care of first and foremost." Wow!
This hit me like a ton of bricks, and it's something I
constantly struggle with. When I wrote this post I was going to have to
leave in eight minutes to take my girlfriend go-carting. We had been
talking about going for months, and the day I originally wrote this post
was the day we decided to go. The only problem is that I wasn't going to
be done writing this blog post in those eight minutes. I needed more
time and could easily have made the decision to pick her up late and
say, "Sorry, but I was in the middle of writing a blog post and wanted
to finish before I cam to see you." But I didn't. I stopped writing at
the time I needed to pick up My Lady and take her out go-carting.
It's a bold and tough decision to make when I decide that I'm going
to stop writing this blog post at the exact time that I need to in order
to pick her up on time. It says, "family comes first."
Everybody is basically a volunteer
Amen Andy! This is definitely a principle that I live by daily.
In my role at United Way there are three staffers who I'm "above in
position" which means I can delegate to them if I want. But I never
treat them in a way that they're required to do anything I say or ask. I
always operate from the point of view that these three ladies don't
have to do anything I ask.
The same is true with A Day of Hope which is ran by all volunteers.
Technically, I'm the "founder" and the "leader" but I don't treat people
like I have position or authority. Everyone who helps with A Day of
Hope helps because he or she wants to. Not because anyone is required
This is one of the reasons why leading in churches and nonprofits is
so challenging: you very rarely have influence over people. You have to
enter their model of the world and lead them from where they are.
Because, you can only make people do something for a limited time. And
once that limited time is over, you no longer have influence over
people. You can only force someone to do something for you for so long,
and before long, that influence wears out.