This post is adapted from a section that was cut from the manuscript of my book titled, A Day of Hope.
But you might ask, what if no one offers to help? That’s why it’s important that you are prepared for the meetings you lead and that you’re always prepared for anyone you talk to. That way you always have a list of things that need to be done and completed for A Day of Hope. This is where the pay now, play later comes into play. If you pay now and work hard to get prepared for everything that needs to be done, you’re able to play later because you can successfully share the load of the work with the people you are volunteering with.
Another example was when I learned to screen the reason people wanted to meet with me for A Day of Hope. Early on in A Day of Hope, anyone who wanted to meet with me to talk about the work we were doing was an automatic, “yes, let’s meet. When and where?”. Everyone I met was either a potential volunteer or donor, so I was always excited to meet with someone to talk about the work we were doing.
Then one time I received a phone call from a woman who said she wanted to “talk about making a donation to A Day of Hope.” So I said I would meet her at Starbucks at 4pm that same day (when someone says they want to donate to your organization, you clear your calendar and meet ASAP). So we meet at Starbucks, and for the next hour she to tells me about how she would donate 30 percent of every purchase I sold from her Arbonne Catalog. She totally abused my good heart and my sincere effort to help people and she turned it into a marketing ploy to have me help sell beauty products. I think her offer did come from a sincere desire to help, but it did not match up with that we told me when she offered to meet. Not to mention I was a guy who had no interest in selling women’s cosmetics (Yes, I know Arbonne has men’s products too, but how many guys actually order from them?).
The bottom line is that when you have a clear picture of what you need help with it is easy to accept an offer for that help and to turn down the offers that don't match up.
Question: How do you get help from others?